Okay. if you want to help me, you have ALOT of reading. If not its okay. Just need someone to talk too me about it.
Just to be clear, I'm not new to these forums. I am a everyday user, But I just don't have enough balls to go ahead and post it under my name. I dont want to sound crazy, i know the mods will find out who i am, but i just dont know if i want people other then them knowing. But i just need some advice.


But i need some fucking help, my life right now is just at the complete worst it has ever been and it has been there. Id ask some friends for help, but all of them are nothing right now to me, there no help, and there not even there for me.

To start off with lets go back to Late October. I was extremely depressed, and upset like i am now, But i met a girl. Her name.. Well lets call her "L". So "L" rode my bus, and i knew her a little. But I added her on myspace, and we got to talking and we had so much in common, and we just hit it off. But me being a pussy, i never asked her out and on new years she started going out with this kid. That didnt stop me, i really liked her but i didnt tell her, i just liked talking to her, and i like LOVED talking too her. She gave great advice, was ALWAYS there for me. And was just fun.
Then I graduated from high school, and we were basically just Myspace friends her and i. We never ever hung out, Basically i just never had enough to say too her, i was scared. So Early june i finally hung out with her, and she tried hooking me up with certain girls, because ive never technically had a true girlfriend. So she tried to get me too date this one girl, and we all hung out. And all i could think about was this L girl. I continued too talk everyday to her, and ive gotten to the stage were i loved her. And we were telling secrets too each other, and i told her i USED too like her. She told me, she did too. But shes dating this guy, who treated her like absolute shit. Would give her little rules, and never talked to her, and blew her off. So lets skip forward, me and her get really close. Like we trust each other, and she trusts nobody even her boyfriend.

And then.. Everything changes.

She texts me saying, her boyfriend was acting really weird and wasn't being himself and he knew they would break up and shit, so i liked talked to her and made her feel good, and was there for her. Well basically they get where they break up the next day, he wasn't "into it anymore" and she then starts talking to some kid in a band, that she likes and tells him what happened. Well this fucking asshole, takes her while shes down, flirts with her and feeds her bullshit, and soo she gets over the boy she loved really quick. And goes out with him and then shes a complete different person, she Goes and gets drunk and high, and looses her virginity to this kid. Stuff she would never do.That doesn't bother me, because i know she is like weak right around now, but she like told me EVERYTHING. And like bragged or tried to make me jealous. So she goes on and on about how hes the perfect person. So i just kind of act like it doesnt bother me.

BUT its just imprinted in my fucking head, soo now all of her friends are moving on from me too and following her. And there all really good friends of mine.

I start College in two days, im so unprepared and not ready for it. With all this through my mind, and all my friends are just changing. There all either moving on from me, or im moving on from them. And i have NOBODY right now. Im just lonely, and confused, and need to talk to someone. But have nobody.

So can someone talk too me, and help me out?
what should i do, because i do love this girl. Truthfully, i know im young, but this isnt no little fling. Shes PERFECT.

Cliche time: Take the leap and let her know how you feel. No point in pining over her endlessly and never reaching the goal. She already admitted that she dug you, so build on it. She sounds like a good girl who was hurting and decided to get a jump start on her experiment stage. Unfortunately, she made a bad choice and did it with a rebound guy that she's currently enamored with. Bear in mind though, it's not your responsibility to save this girl from herself. If she wishes to continue her backslide, then she will. It's tha simple. Don't be afraid of letting you know that you're there to help her and be there for her; however, realize that it's up to her whether or not she makes a conscientious choice to stop dating losers. That may seem a little harsh, but remember the old proverb: You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make'em drink.

Good luck with it. And if you are who I suspect you are, play a little team fortress to sort out that aggrivation. If not, pay my post script no mind and just stick to the advice at the top. ^_^

In life we are all given the free will to choose. and the choices we make we have to live with. It's like Link said you can't change this girl she has to want to change herself. you can let her know you are there for her but don't lose sight of your goals. you have choices too so chose your path and in the end everything will work out. my mom always told me everything happens for a reason maybe you can't see it right now but maybe this is all for the best.

JESUSSSSSSSSS CHRIST.

This amazed me. Apart from a few minor details, this was almost too much like a situation I am/was in, up until "Then everything changes.", and then things took a different course for me.

I'm sorry to say I have no advice for you, I just thought you might like to know, I went through what you are going through as well, for the most part. I'm almost completely over the chick now (I think I still like her a tiny bit.) so I can say that you should be fine, once you move on. I went through a depressed stage as well.

I agree with the above poster, tell her how you feel. Worst case scenario, you're exactly where you are now, except you'd KNOW how she felt about you.

this seems to happen to almost everyone at least once in their life. i'm still in the middle of mine now. (minus the personality change part). i haven't manned up and spilled yet either, though i know that's what needs to be done.

I wrote something way to personal and decided to remove it, The Best, if you want to read it I would feel more comfortable knowing who so PM me if you want to know what it was.

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