This may sound strange but do you ever have one of those moments when you realize how messed up things are. I mean really how fucked up the world is. I was walking home and on my block I realized that I know maybe two of my neighbours. There are maybe 40 houses in my cul de sac and I know people in 2 of them. Then I thought about how many people live in my city and I know maybe 100 of them. Out of 2 million people I know 100. Then I started to wonder how some people have no friends or no social life and take their own lives because of it. I'm beginning to see how society is fucked up and disfunctional.

-grim nod-

I don't know anybody, really, around where I live. It's a small community where plenty of people know everyone, but I don't bother. It's sort of sad.

Here in NA, it takes a lot for people (strangers) to open up to eachother. That's why.

i'm glad i don't know a lot of people in bethesda.

almost everyone that lives near me on my street are relatives. and i dont like it because my family doesnt get along.

thats even more messed up when your own relatives arent allowed on your property and youre not allowed on theirs.

wow. well put.

way to go james. keep your head up.

meh it's a depressing thought really. So is the fact that tonight 1 million people are down at the beach watching fireworks and I decided to go home after work. I remember back when I was a kid I always wanted to see the fireworks every year, then when I was in highschool you basically had to go or else you were a loser. Now i'm happier sitting at home.

it is pretty depressing. i don't really have many friends around here either, and all the friends i use to have i don't even talk to anymore. i was best friends with this one kid my entire life from like preschool till the start of high school. now when i pass him in the halls we don't even look at each other. i'm alright with it though, my old friends are the typical pot smoking, trend following 'cool' kids. i just wish i knew more people with common interests.

from when I was 6 until last year I had a best friend, we were more like brothers for 15 years. We lived across the street from each other and move between houses as if each were our own. I would have taken a bullet for him. We had a small fight and haven't spoken for a year and now he's moved. It's the strangest thing in the world when you're so close to someone and all of a sudden it all changes.

i've had a similar encounter
i had a great group of friends. we hung out for years and became the best of friends. we kind of came together because of music. we had our own group and we were happy but things didnt go well. here i was with a group of friends and i was happy but we got in little fights and i broke off from the group. now im lucky just to get a call from anyone now a days. i find myself sitting at home alone on the computer now. its really depressing because i used to have such great friends and now i have no one..friends are precious, you cant take them for granted

I'm the same way sometimes. I tend to break off connections with people just because they do things that piss me off and don't do enough to make me care to continue that friendship. Meh

i know exactly what you mean..one thing i disliked about my friends were they were to critical and judgemental..you couldnt listen to a band without being called a "claimer" and it got really annoying..and i kind of just lost touch with them/ its sad, it really is

I don't hang out with people who're that into indie music, probably for that reason.

and you are smart for that
i just wish i wasnt so nieve when i decided to become friends with them

could there be a give and take...true, we are losing possible face to face interaction and personal acquaintances sitting in front of our computers...But we are trading those possibilities for the ability to have trivial (in my opinion) and disposable fake relationships and personas which we, for the most part, could not attain (whether because of location, age, or personal differences) in our ‘real’ lives. We are able to project our trite and unresearched ideas (quite like mine) across the globe and possibly effect another’s perception...One could say, face to face human interaction is scrabbled and diluted, with non verbal cues, social classifications and proxemics, where as online interaction would be pure (to a degree) where ideas are not lost to subliminal and social interference...but that’s assuming exchanging actual ideas is paramount...maybe shaking hands, locking eyes, and hearing another’s voice, regardless of what it is saying, is truly what is important.....In summary, this is all I have ever known, I've never lived in a neighborhood where everyone gathers around on decks during summer nights to converse and bond...so to me, this trade off, is a fair, if not a winning trade... Some point to rising rates of depression and mental illness and are quick to label them as bi products of living in a modern world, I say that rising diagnoses are the bi products of living in a modern world

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its funny though, humans are social beings and need to feel connected to one another in order to live, it doesn't necessarily make sense to push others away. if you're not connected in one way, you find another.. posting on message boards, or creating a myspace page for example. its interesting how conviently the internet creates new social connections.

i agree that society is mostly to blame for disconnected feelings, but remember you can improve the situation, i.e. putting yourself in a position where you can meet more of your neighbors, make an effort.

also you naturally grow out of friendships and find new ones. its usually the result of conflicting interests and values.